There’s certainly a pattern forming in the types of posts here on the blog (see here for example).
Women in all sorts of lifestyle situations (single, partnered, parents) are either taking no time to relax or, when they do find time to unwind, they feel a strong sense of guilt for taking downtime.
Where did we learn to keep so busy?
I’m sure it’s a mix of factors - comparison against other women’s lifestyles, productivity articles, societal changes. Somehow we now wear being productive as a badge of honour.
How many hours we’re working, how often we’re exercising, how organised we are at home are now seen as measures of success or self worth.
This mentality is in direct competition with lazy mornings, spare time with loved ones and long walks (without burning calories in mind).
What will your life be made up of?
I spoke to Paige from Healthy Hits the Spot about this and loved her response. She asked me if I wanted a large chunk of my life to be taken up with relaxation and enjoyable downtime activities. Absolutely yes, was my response. This really helps my mentality and I hope it helps you too.
Personally, I am planning on a life full of books, music and film, as well as time outdoors enjoying nature.
What is the damage of busy work?
The above point leads me into the idea of busy work and the inability to relax.
We really need to prioritise being present over the menial tasks of the day - it’s not a long term way to live to be constantly on the go, pottering around the house or ticking through your to do list.
Yes it has its place, but it’s usually not the time memories are made.
Do you find time to relax? Do you rate relaxation as highly as productivity? Let me know in the comments below.