Do you ever get the feeling you’re the only one who struggles in the mornings?
Your alarm goes off and you a) hit the snooze alarm or b) start the desperate bargaining for how you can stay in bed.
Can I exercise tomorrow instead? Can I call in sick? Can I work from home? Can I cancel all my plans and stay in the warmth?
I hear about this happening a lot in conversations with clients and friends and - shock - also sometimes feel this myself.
In particular, over the last week, with clocks changing, I’ve been struggling to get out of bed in the morning.
So what can you do?
We often go to bed with grand plans of yoga the next morning, prepping our lunch and jumping out of bed gleefully to our to do list. If you wake up and don’t feel like the person you expected to the night before, that’s ok.
The worst thing you can do is berate yourself and feel shocked, disappointed or guilty about your struggle.
If you know you don’t usually feel great, expect it and it will be easier to take when it comes up in the wee hours of the morning.
In one of my favourite personal development books, The Happiness Trap (read my review here), Dr Russ Harris talks about distancing yourself from your thoughts.
As we’ve come to understand, our thoughts are not necessarily the truth, so if you can name the thoughts or watch them from a distance, they will likely be easier to deal with.
For example, you can name the thoughts you go through each morning (“Here comes the ‘stay in bed’ story again”) or mentally stand back and watch your thoughts drift by from a distance.
This loosens their power and effect on you and helps pull you out of the intensity of your feelings.
Move on with it
I’m sure many of us have had this experience - we are 100% sure we cannot face the day and will feel like rubbish all day if we even attempt to face the world.
We promise ourselves as soon as we get home from the day we can go back to bed and pull the covers over our head.
Then after dragging ourselves out of bed, we shower, have breakfast and can barely remember that crazy person who told us to not to get out of bed today.
We get on with our day and enjoy the evening, before returning to bed at regular time that night.
I’m not dismissing the need to have a doona day now and then, but usually it’s not actually what we need or want by the time we start our day.
Try moving on with your day’s activities and observe the results.
If you’re ready to try becoming a morning person, read my three tips here.
And let me know how you go with your morning thoughts this week and if these tips help you face the day.