Some big news here on the blog - I went and had myself a baby girl!
There’s been a little less content around here while I learned the ins and outs of having a beautiful newborn baby, but I’m excited to be back, writing to you all and coaching clients again.
You can imagine there’s been some hefty lessons that have come with this time in my life. I’ve been mentally storing them up to share with you readers, in the hopes that they’ll help you in a relevant area of your life too.
So - let’s start with how we try to control outcomes.
Over the years I’ve become pretty great at this.
Sure, I’ve been frustrated with the time it takes to tone up at the gym, but over a series of months I’ve always got there. At work, the promotion might not be available straight away but I keep plugging away and when it’s there, I’ve often been the chosen one.
You can imagine my surprise over the last couple of months when I discovered no matter what action I was taking I couldn’t control a certain result.
I have had some nursing issues (who the hell hasn’t I’ve discovered) and I took it on as a project - I researched all I could, went to appointments, stocked up on supplements and medicine, started my regime with full gusto and was ready for the results to start rolling in…
...then three weeks later… nothing.
Since I was told results should come after two weeks, I was confused. This isn’t what happens to me.
Cue a yucky spiral of sadness, doubt and defeat.
But then I realised… feeling crappy about it was only having one effect. Making me feel like crap.
It seemed I couldn’t change the circumstances, but I could change how I felt about them.
I have been loving being a mum but feeling down doesn’t leave much time to smell the roses and enjoy the moment.
After much thinking, I decided to mentally LET GO OF THE OUTCOME (gasp).
I realised even if I hung on tight to the outcome I wanted, it would still have no effect, so it was time to stop the suffering.
I now feel about a billion times better. Sure, I feel a bit disappointed, but it is what it is. I am trying my best, but sometimes in life that just won’t do the trick.
Can you change your thoughts about something that’s getting you down?
Can you let go of an outcome and, in doing so, let go of some suffering?
I hope you can and feel the relief I’ve finally come to.