Patience seems to be my theme of 2018. In all sorts of ways, I am learning to be more patient - with the activities of my day, with long term goals, with people.
Spending a lot of time with my baby this year, life has taken a new, slower pace.
Earlier in the year, I was feeding her at the dark and civilised hour of 4am. I found myself waiting and waiting, timing her feed.
After it was done I was watching the clock as I waited for her to burp. I felt impatient and I wanted it to be done so I could get back to bed.
After lots of time spent reading and listening to Alex Franzen, the queen of appreciating ‘life minutes’ as she calls them, I was reminded of a quote from one of her books… ‘Allow it to take as long as it takes’.
Bleary eyed, I repeated this to myself and looked at my daughter. She didn’t care how long things were taking and she had nowhere else she wanted to be. And neither did I.
Now, I use this mantra regularly.
When thinking about a goal or purchase I want to be here right here, right now, I remind myself - allow it to take as long as it takes.
When I’m cooking and find myself wanting the preparation to be done and to be sitting at the table eating the finished product already. I stop and think - allow it to take as long as it takes.
Are you rushing through your daily activities, wishing they were done already?
Are you impatiently waiting for your train to arrive at your station, anxious for your name to be called at the coffee shop, restless for the stretching track in your gym class to be finished already?
Maybe you’re impatient for a promotion, a new car, a boyfriend, a holiday to be here already?
What if you stopped the mental struggle and allowed life to take as long as it takes?