Earlier this year, I was having trouble with a particular person in my life - I would call him an ‘energy vampire’...
I wasn’t super close to him but had to have a lot to do with him on a week to week basis. In my eyes, he was very negative about life and I felt like I was a sounding board for much of this negativity.
Plodding along through everyday life, I thought the relationship wasn’t having much of an effect on me. I knew how our conversations would go and I would nod and sympathise, then move on with my days.
However at a session with my kinesiologist, the relationship came up as a big red flag in our discussions. Despite the nodding and smiling, underneath I was feeling incredibly drained and exhausted by the relationship and it was bringing me down.
My kinesiologist suggested a great technique that I used around this person from then on and I’ve shared it with clients who are in similar situations.
Whether you’re feeling drained by family, a work colleague or friend, this visualisation technique is designed to protect you from any negative energy while still allowing you to be there for people as needed.
You can do these steps before you speak to them next or during your conversation.
Picture your bubble
This will be different for all of us, but if you picture a bubble around yourself when in conversation with this person, what does it look like?
What is it made out of? Is it wet or dry? What colour is it? Is it round or does it run close to your body?
Let the bubble protect you
Once you have a clear picture of the bubble around you, you can start to imagine it as a sort of shield in conversation with this person.
As the other person speaks, you are protected by the bubble.
Do you see their words bouncing off the bubble? Do their sentences drip down the side? Does the bubble reflect their words back to them?
You can still concentrate on what they’re saying but in the back of your mind, visualise and know you are protected by the bubble.
The key is to use this visualisation technique to protect your own energy as needed.
Without the bubble, it’s quite easy to absorb what someone’s saying, feel down about their struggles and leave situations with them feeling depleted.
Using the bubble lets you still hear them out, be there for them, but you know you are protected from any negative words or energy and can move back into your day without your vibe being brought down.
Let me know if you try the bubble technique with someone in your life. How did it work for you?