May Recap and June Intentions

Although 2017 seems to be passing quickly, May actually feels like it went pretty slowly for me as I look back on the month.

I relaunched my website on the first day of May, which feels like quite a while ago now, and I wanted to pause and say a huge thank you for your support with launching my coaching business.

I have one coaching spot free in June and would love to chat to you for 30 minutes (complimentary!) about your goals for the rest of the year and see if we’re a good match. You can read about my coaching package here and contact me over here. I’d love to hear from you.

May was otherwise busy with coaching sessions and celebrating the birthdays of some of my favourite people.

Now we’re into the start of winter here in Australia, so let’s see how I did last month and how I’m going to keep warm in June...

May Recap

Have tech free time on weekends

Why do I so often forget how amazing this practice is? If I’m not mindful, my default, switch off mode is to pick up a device and browse social media for umpteen minutes and hours.

Over the last month, I’ve made sure to put my phone on the charger as soon as I go to bed so I’m not scrolling right before I sleep, and I’ve also been going device free for at least half a day on the weekends.

I’m so much happier and present when I do this.

At night I’ve been reading (see what I’ve been reading over here) and on weekends, mixing some productive errands with simply relaxing with Pickles.

Start weekend hikes

Yeah, no… this did not happen... 

Despite my best intentions, other plans or rain got in the way of my hiking dreams.

Stay tuned for June...

June Intentions

Enjoy quality time

I have two trips planned for June, one with friends and one with family - both who live in other cities.

Although that rules out much downtime on those particular weekends, I am excited to spend time with those close to me in person.

There are lots of celebrations in place and it will be a great break from everyday routine. Not a hard intention to meet!

Do one weekend hike

I’m not sure this will equate to staying warm in winter, but at least one weekend hike has got to be possible in June.

I have been walking on the river behind my house as always, but am going to plan at least one weekend day late in the month where I try out a new area. Wish me luck!

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What are your plans for June? Don’t forget to get in touch if you would like a 30 minute complimentary coaching consult to start planning out the rest of 2017.

 

Why I Ditched My To Do List In Favour Of Self-Love

I’m very excited to be featured on a fellow coach, Bailey Opsal's blog this week, talking about the challenging topics of self-love and self-care.

All too often, in conversations with friends and clients, self-love is a concept they struggle with.

It’s not that they hate themselves, it’s that they think the more they push themselves or berate themselves, the more pleased they’ll be with themselves ... and that will somehow lead to self-love. It kind of sounds logical, but also quite harsh.

I used to fall into this camp. Sure I had fun and took care of myself, but the repetitive to do list of everyday life took precedent - I had to exercise a certain amount, there was always a list of things to do around the house and guilt and anxiety would set in if I wasn’t on top of everything.

I eventually figured this busy work was surely not what life was about.

Similar chores and to do lists would always be there, but I no longer wanted to make them the focus of my life or thinking.

I decided the things I loved to do had to come before my to do list.

So what does that look like?  

Yoga

If you remember this earlier post, you’ll know that I resisted yoga for a long time. In line with my busy to do list, yoga seemed boring, slow and did not burn enough calories for me back in the days when that mattered to me.

Now, I do it every day in some shape or form. It’s usually first thing in the morning and has worked wonders for waking me up and stretching out my creaky body after sleep.

You’ll know my favourites are Yoga With Adriene and Tara Stiles - try these short videos from Adriene and Tara if you’re interested.

Yoga now gets me out of my own head and slows me right down.

Reading

I used to read like a crazy person when I was younger - to the point where my sister was horribly embarrassed by me always carrying around a book.

Like many avid readers I know, the plight of social media and the short attention spans that come with it, meant I wasn’t reading nearly as much as I was buying books.

Over the last 6 months, when I catch myself on my phone, checking Instagram for the 10th time, I remind myself that reading would be much more fulfilling and again, will help me switch off.

I read a combination of hard copy books and download onto my Kindle app obsessively (are you guys all over the free sample chapters on Amazon’s Kindle store? Try before you buy!).

I’m currently reading The Course of Love (I am obsessed with Alain de Botton) and The Year of Magical Thinking (heavy going but Joan Didion’s writing is incredible).

Spending time with people

If you’re ever feeling too much up in your own head, my best advice is to go and spend quality time with someone else.

Sure you might want to talk about what you’re going through or your to do list might be nagging at you, but inevitably you’ll gain some perspective and either be distracted, or realise we’re all going through similar things.

If I can’t catch up with people in person regularly enough, I try and call them in the car on the way to or from work and make sure I check in with those most important to me.

Playing games

Those who know me, know I have a penchant for video games… yes, yes I know...

My favourite for years has been The Sims (stop laughing) which I dip in and out of a few times a year. I also love hidden object games (Google them!) - they are great for switching your brain off and relaxing. I have also recently made a triumphant return to playing Mario Kart.

Listening to music (and having dance parties)

Although I have an obsession with podcasts (my current favourites are The Life Coach School Podcast and On Being), I recognised a while ago that absorbing information constantly isn’t always the best for me switching off.

What is good for switching off my brain is listening to music - I try and do that in the car more often than not, and love going through my back catalogue of music on the computer at night and dancing around the living room when called for (much to the confusion of my cat Pickles).

What can you do this week to step away from your to do list? 

I also have one coaching spot opening up in June - contact me here for a complimentary 30 minute consult if you'd like to talk about how you can find fulfillment outside of your to do list. 

Where I'm At with Susan Williams-Goebber

If you've been reading my blog for a while, I'm sure you've gathered I crave organisation by all the time management posts I write.

This month I'm interviewing Susan Williams-Goebber, who specialises in helping women schedule their lives - whether it be work, play or sleep, she's got tips for every area of your life. Susan is a teacher and she also blogs and offers group and 1:1 coaching to help women avoid overwhelm. I hope you enjoy this insight into how she plans her days - I personally love her focus on self-care and rest. 

What is your usual wake up time?

Weekdays I get woken up at 5:30am, but I don’t get out of bed till about 6:30–7:00am.

On the weekends I don’t have an alarm so I wake up when my body says so, which is normally around 7–8am.

How do you like to start your day?

I love to start my day in bed with a cup of coffee or two. Oh and a glass of water with lemon that I didn't drink that night. 

I write in my journal to get everything out of my head, which is the first conversation that I have.

It is so important for me to know what’s going on in my head and get all the worries that I don’t want to share down on paper. I feel much better after writing.

While in bed I go through my emails, look on Facebook, answer any questions or comment on posts.

Then I watch webinars that have happened while I have been asleep. If there aren’t any available I watch Periscope or YouTube. I have now added guided meditation to my morning routine.  

I’m not a good morning person that is why I need such a long time in bed. I don’t talk to anyone and hubby has learned not to talk or ask questions 'til I’m out of bed, washed and dressed. It sounds bad I know, but I know me and it is easier on both of us. The good thing is that hubby is a farmer so he gets up before me and he’s out of the house.

Tell us about your commute. 

I drive to school at different times throughout the week. When I’m in my car I love to listen to books on my Kindle. Or let my mind wander.

I also like to go through my lesson in my mind and visualise how well-behaved the children will be and how much fun we are all going to have. I will also pick a song and start to sing it to get in the mood.

Do you like to plan your day ahead or allow some spontaneity?

I love to plan my week. I really need to know what’s going on and religiously write it in my planner. I believe I’m not good at being spontaneous and need to plan ahead. I feel safe when I plan.

After planning I know how much free time I have, so that when things come up out of the blue I can say yes or no. So really you could call it a ‘controlled spontaneity’.

How do you spend your ideal lunch break to recharge for the afternoon?

Oh I love my lunch breaks. I hate the cooking part so I am always grateful when hubby cooks. I then go and lie down every day at the same time (1:30pm) and sleep for about 15 minutes.

I then go through the same routine as my mornings, mad moodiness and all. I then take phone calls again at 2:30pm. 

My ideal lunch break would be to have a cook who has a healthy lunch waiting for me when I come home from school. I’d eat in peace, then go lay down.

What kind of workout schedule do you try to adhere to?

I love my yoga Wednesdays. My week doesn’t feel right if I miss it. And that’s it! I take my two dogs for a walk each day and that’s my workout. 

I used to do so much more, and will add more to my life soon. I know that’s what everyone says but I know me and I know why I don’t do more. I’m working on changing that.

How do you like to end your day?

I like to end my day reading my emails, looking on Pinterest, watching webinars. When that’s done I will sometimes fall asleep watching something on Amazon Prime, my computer or my Kindle Fire.

What time do you doze off?

Whenever my body says so. It’s different every day. It can be as early as 8pm or at 2am. I don’t worry about it anymore.

What do you aspire to every day but never / rarely actually do? (you can tell me, we all have them!)

I want to read more in the evenings, not just emails, but books. 

I just have the feeling that I am missing something and need to have a look on social media to be present. I know this is stupid and I need to change my mindset on that.

Any advice for women trying to find ease in their every day?

I believe that we as women ought to put ourselves at the top of our to-do list. Be more selfish – we are entitled to free time and putting ourselves first.

We would be teaching our children not to sacrifice themselves for others, and our daughters will learn not to burn themselves out as future mothers. Have a set hour just as alone time and fight for it, it’s worth it.

Can you give my readers your quick go-to recipe after a busy day?

My quick go to recipe after a busy day has nothing to do with food. It’s just a cup of something warm and time to breathe. Clear your head and write your thoughts down on paper. Easy!

You can find Susan at the links below - go show her some love! 

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